The Mask of Stoicism
"Lilly, you seem like you’re doing so well."
What?! I thought.
How could she say that? My mom had just died, and I was drowning in pain.
I smiled, “I’m okay.”
My friend didn’t know I was not okay because I never showed it.
I had perfected remaining stoic in suffering.
Happy Girl
At that time in my life, I never showed what I considered “negative” emotions—sadness and anger.
Instead, I tried to suppress my feelings or over-process the emotions in my mind, compartmentalizing in hopes that they’d eventually disappear.
This habit created an illusion of safety and control. However, emotions demand to be felt and will inevitably surface in one way or another.
Mastering Emotions and Easing Anxious Overthinking
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore emotional reactivity in overthinkers who internalize emotions rather than express them. We’ll examine how high emotional reactivity impacts relationships and how it can show up differently for those who appear calm on the outside but experience intense emotions within.
Key Takeaways:
Emotional Reactivity
Emotional reactivity can look like an adult “tantrum”—but it can also be quieter, showing up as mental rehearsal or overthinking. Even those who seem calm outwardly may struggle with high emotional reactivity internally, feeling anxious, guarded, or deeply hurt while appearing composed.
Signs of Internalized Emotional Turmoil
People who internalize emotions often struggle with anxiety and overthinking, leading to mental “stories” or “what-ifs.” Rather than outwardly reacting, they may withdraw or put up emotional walls to feel safe.
The Importance of Developing Internal Stability
External events don’t shake us as easily when we regulate ourselves emotionally, helping us build resilience and peace in relationships.
Workshop:
How to Face Conflict Without Running Away
Date: Tuesday, October 29th, noon CT (1 PM ET / 10 PT)
Location: Zoom
Duration: 50 minutes
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