Saying What Matters Without Needing Control: The Power of Non-Attachment
Clarity Questions to practice non-attachment
When you're attached to the outcome, you overthink what you say.
During my yoga teacher training in 2014, we studied the Yamas and Niyamas, ethical principles from the ancient Indian philosophy of yoga.
Aparigraha, the last of the Yamas, is the practice of non-attachment. In Aparigraha actions are not tied to coercing a specific outcome; instead, the focus is on the action itself.
When we apply this concept to communication, we free ourselves from overthinking what we say.
You no longer have to control what will happen. Instead, you focus on being honest and open as you share.
Imagine how you would communicate if didn’t try to manage the other person’s reaction.
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Clarity Questions:
These questions are framed for romantic relationships if you are single, answer these in the context of a previous or potential relationship to help gain insight into your communication habits.
What is something you know you need to discuss with your partner (or someone you’re dating) that you’ve been avoiding?
Is there a particular outcome you are hoping for?
When you think about starting this conversation, what do you notice in your body?
What are you afraid of?
How would your approach change if you let go of the outcome?
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