What are we fighting about?
I almost lost a friend of 8 years over a misunderstanding.
My mom always said when you assume you make an ass out of u and me.
Well, that’s what happened.
Listen to this week’s episode of Relearn Relationships to hear the story.
Key Takeaways:
Overthinking vs. Open Communication: Processing alone can create inaccurate stories in our minds about others' intentions. Speaking up can save us from these spirals.
The Impact of Assumptions: Assuming without asking shuts down communication and hinders connection. Curiosity, instead of assumptions, keeps relationships clear and healthy.
The Power of Vulnerability: Facing discomfort and using your voice, even when it feels risky, builds trust and clears up misunderstandings.
Emotion Awareness: Recognizing emotions in the moment, rather than intellectualizing them, allows us to respond authentically and make healthier choices in relationships.
Clarity in Needs: Once we’re clear on what we feel, it’s essential to voice the impact of the experience and express what’s needed to move forward.
Go Deeper:
I’m obsessed with inner child work for this reason: it changed my relationships.
Before understanding the why behind my behaviors, I lived in automatic mode.
In relationships, that looked like:
Getting emotionally overwhelmed in conflict and shutting down.
Allowing myself to be treated like a doormat because I thought having boundaries was mean.
Being manipulative in an attempt to get my needs met instead of communicating clearly and directly.
Waiting for the other shoe to drop.
Overthinking everything I wanted to say and rehearsing possible responses in my head.
After doing inner child work, I have access to what I call Intentional mode.
In relationships, that looks like this:
Experiencing and expressing my emotions in a healthy, regulated way.
Having healthy boundaries and receiving respect in my relationships because I hold my boundaries.
Asking for what I want and need directly.
Getting back into my body when I find myself living in my head.
If you’re tired of:
Letting your emotions run the show,
Overthinking what to say, or
Being disrespected,
Having short-term shallow relaitonships,
I’d love to guide you through my Blueprint Awareness Method.
Message me (or email me at lilly@lillyrachels.com) the word “Blueprint” to learn more.
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