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The Check Engine Light in Your Relationship: Are You Ignoring It?
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The Check Engine Light in Your Relationship: Are You Ignoring It?

Episode 22: Relearn Relationships Podcast

Most people wait until their relationship is in flames before asking for help.

But what if we treated our relationship like a car? What if we checked the oil before the engine blew? In this episode, I’m breaking down why support isn’t just for crisis moments—and how to recognize the early warning signs that your relationship needs care.

Whether you’re feeling distant, building resentment, or just going through the motions… this one’s for you.

🔑 KEY TAKEAWAYS:

Preventative care is relational care.
You don’t wait for your car to break down before checking the oil. Relationships need regular check-ins too—intimacy, communication, and intention are part of the maintenance plan.

The “check engine light” may look like:

  • Withholding your needs

  • Growing resentment

  • Lack of intimacy or connection

  • Constant criticism or nagging

  • Feeling like roommates, not partners

Avoiding discomfort leads to bigger ruptures.
Neglect doesn’t make conflict go away—it compounds it. The longer you drive with that warning light on, the harder the repair.

How to speak up (without creating more chaos):
Start with intention. Don't just dump your emotional laundry—set a tone for growth. “I want us to feel more connected. Can we talk about how we’re doing?”

You don’t need to do it alone.
Asking for support isn’t a weakness—it's wisdom. And if your partner won’t join you? Go anyway. Your healing can be the ripple that changes everything.

Create rituals that sustain the engine.
Weekly check-ins, playful date nights, time for physical intimacy, and space for emotional honesty are not luxuries. They’re how love lasts.

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🎧 ASK YOURSELF:

  • What check engine lights have I been ignoring in my relationship?

  • What small step could I take this week to tune back in, instead of tuning out?

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