Stop Thinking, Start Talking: Overcoming Relationship Misunderstandings
Clarity Questions to eliminate assumptions in your relationships
It Breaks My Heart When Relationships End Over Misunderstandings
Not every relationship is meant to last a lifetime.
Some are for seasons, some for reasons, and some stay with us until our last breath.
Endings can be beautiful.
But when a relationship crumbles due to misunderstandings and lack of communication, I want to scream, “It doesn’t have to be that way!!”
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How to stop misunderstandings
The key to breaking the cycle of misunderstandings in your relationship is to stop assuming and start communicating.
Instead of living in your head and overthinking—open your mouth and ask for clarity.
Instead of assuming they meant to hurt you—ask them to share their intention.
Relationships thrive when we approach our partners with curiosity, not as if we’re experts on them.
Take your time with the clarity questions below to eliminate assumptions in your relationships.
Clarity Questions:
These questions are framed for romantic relationships but can easily be applied to other connections, such as those with friends or family members.
What beliefs am I holding about my partner’s thoughts or feelings that I haven’t directly asked them about?
In which interactions do I feel compelled to hold back or change what I want to say? What fears arise in those moments?
What outcome am I anticipating if I share honestly? Could this expectation be shaped by past experiences rather than the present situation?
How do I interpret my partner’s words and actions during conflicts? Am I filling in gaps with assumptions instead of seeking their viewpoint?
How might my need for control or certainty be limiting my openness to communicate? How can I start letting go of this need?
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Great post. Love how you manage to make this nugget of wisdom so short.
Though I’d disagree with “Not every relationship is meant to last a lifetime.” But we probably mean the same.
Every relationship is meant to be there for a lifetime. Our true being is interconnected with everything and everyone around us. The only question is whether we actualize the relationship and turn it into a re(a)lationship.