I Did What I Tell My Clients Not to Do—Then I Remembered My Superpower

Finding clarity through stillness

A Free Simple Guide + 5-Minute Grounding Meditation to Calm Anxiety

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Using Busy to Avoid Emotions

As I write this, it’s 2:50 p.m.

I sat down to write at 8:00 a.m. this morning.

Hours have passed, and the one thing I planned to prioritize has fallen behind an array of busy work.

Since waking up this morning, I have done exactly what I caution readers and clients against—chasing the day.

Jumping straight into work without taking time to center myself.

But my business was merely a mask.

The truth is, I didn’t want to acknowledge the uncomfortable emotions that were trying to come up.

Stillness is my superpower

In stillness, I find clarity. I find breath. I find focus.

I know the vital role stillness plays in my success and joy—yet today, I sacrificed it for menial tasks.

Without stillness, I operate in reactive mode—whether to emails, tasks, or my partner.

Physically, this feels like an internal buzzing, almost like a hummingbird in my chest. A sensation from my throat to my sternum. It’s uncomfortable.

Emotionally, it’s frustration and anxiety.

Like all emotions, this feeling is a signal. The more I ignore it, the stronger the sensation becomes. It was trying to tell me something.

So I finally listened.

Recentered and refocused

I took 20 minutes, turned on some relaxing frequency music, laid down, and closed my eyes.

I noticed the buzzing sensation, said out loud what I was experiencing and the emotion attached to it, and then took a few minutes to breathe and be still.

Like magic—I was grounded.

The lurking feeling of frustration and anxiety ran its course, and with it, clarity came.

Emotions are signals

When you ignore the signals your emotions send, they get louder and more intense.

But you can find peace when you take time to be with the feeling and allow it space to run its course.

Understanding my emotional signals has transformed how I show up in relationships. When I get irritated, short-tempered, or upset, instead of living in reactive mode and acting out of the uncomfortable emotions I’m experiencing, I take a few minutes to find stillness.

With this space, I can experience emotional waves without suppressing or projecting them onto my partner.

Feel to heal

When you allow yourself to feel the wave, you begin to surf—not drown—in your emotions.

What would your life and relationships look like if stillness became a regular part of your day?

If instead of living in reaction mode, you owned your emotional wave and took time to experience it without self-judgment or blaming others for your feelings?

If you’re curious, download my Feel to Heal Starter Kit and try the free meditation to calm anxiety.

The less you fight the uncomfortable emotions, the more space you’ll have for the pleasurable ones.