Overthinking It? Stop the Spiral and Learn to Ask for What You Want
Turn Anxiety into Authentic Connection
Do you know that feeling?
The constant buzz of anxiety in your head. The way you replay conversations obsessively. The invisible armor of humor and hyper-independence you wear, secretly hoping someone will see through it.
You're brilliant at keeping people at arm's length—and equally skilled at feeling profoundly alone.
Your Survival Strategy: Overthink. Protect. Retreat.
Maybe you've convinced yourself that relationships are just too complicated. That it's easier to stay guarded, to make jokes about being "too independent" or "not relationship material."
But deep down? You're exhausted.
Exhausted from:
Constantly waiting for "the other shoe to drop"
Interpreting every text message like it's an encrypted code
Feeling like you can never fully relax in love
Watching potential connections slip through your fingers, year after year
Here's the truth no one tells you: Your overthinking isn't a character flaw. It's a protective mechanism born from past hurt.
Your brain isn't trying to sabotage you—it's trying to keep you safe.
But what if safety isn't the same as healing? What if your coping mechanism is actually keeping you from the connection you desperately want?
The Unspoken Needs
You have needs. Real needs that you've learned to silence.
Needs like:
Being truly seen
Feeling safe to be vulnerable
Having your emotions validated
Creating genuine intimacy without fear
Right now, those needs are trapped behind a wall of overthinking and unspoken words.
But they're still there. Waiting.
A Different Path Forward
I created a free script specifically for over thinkers like you (and me)—a lifeline for having uncomfortable conversations that feel impossible.
It's designed to help you:
Transform anxiety into honest communication
Set boundaries without burning bridges
Express your needs without spiraling
Create the emotional safety you've always craved
Your overthinking brain is not your enemy. It's trying to protect a heart that wants—and deserves—real connection.
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Ready to stop surviving and start connecting?
Let's do this. Together.
Lilly Rachels is a relationship coach with a master's degree in social work and a background in therapy and trauma-sensitive yoga. Specializing in inner child work, she helps clients build and keep supportive relationships. Lilly sits on the advisory board for Survivors for Change, an organization that provides education, advocacy, and wellness resources to support sexual abuse survivors on their healing and justice journey. Lilly lives part-time in Nashville, part-time in an RV with her partner and pups.
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